What Are the Five Main Habits of a Narcissist?

In the world of trauma and abuse recovery, understanding narcissism is crucial for healing. At Mending the Soul, we recognize that narcissistic behaviors often leave profound emotional and psychological scars on their victims. Drawing from the foundational principles of Mending the Soul by Steve and Celestia Tracy and insights from the Mending the Soul Workbook, this post outlines five common habits of a narcissist to help you identify these patterns and begin the journey toward restoration.

1. Constant Need for Validation

A defining trait of narcissists is their insatiable hunger for affirmation. They often demand excessive attention and praise, expecting others to bolster their self-image. This need stems from an internal void that they try to fill through external validation. In relationships, this habit can manifest as manipulative behaviors to ensure they remain the center of attention. Victims often feel drained, as their emotional energy is siphoned to satisfy the narcissist's ego.

2. Exploitation of Others

Narcissists frequently exploit the people around them to achieve their own goals. They view relationships as transactional and will manipulate or deceive others if it serves their interests. This exploitation often includes emotional abuse, gaslighting, and a lack of genuine empathy. In their wake, they leave partners, friends, and family members feeling used and devalued.

3. Lack of Empathy

Empathy—the ability to understand and share the feelings of another—is noticeably absent in narcissists. They are often incapable of truly connecting with others on an emotional level. While they may feign concern when it benefits them, their actions rarely align with authentic care or compassion. This lack of empathy can lead victims to feel unseen and invalidated, deepening their sense of isolation.

4. Projection of Faults onto Others

Narcissists are masters of deflection. Rather than taking responsibility for their actions or shortcomings, they project their faults onto others. This tactic allows them to maintain their self-image while sowing confusion and self-doubt in their victims. Over time, this can erode the victim’s confidence, making it harder to discern truth from manipulation.

5. Grandiosity and Superiority Complex

A narcissist’s inflated sense of self-worth often manifests as grandiosity. They believe they are inherently superior to others and demand to be treated accordingly. This habit can lead to an overbearing presence in social and professional settings, often dismissing others' contributions as insignificant. For those in close relationships with a narcissist, this superiority complex can feel demeaning and suffocating.

How to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse

Healing from the effects of a relationship with a narcissist requires intentional steps toward recovery. At Mending the Soul, we emphasize the importance of recognizing these harmful patterns and reclaiming your sense of worth and dignity. Here are some steps you can take:

• Educate Yourself: Understanding the dynamics of narcissism can empower you to set boundaries and recognize unhealthy behaviors.

• Seek Support: Safe and supportive communities—such as Mending the Soul groups—offer validation and encouragement as you process your experiences.

• Engage in Self-Care: Prioritize practices that nurture your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

• Consider Professional Help: Trauma-informed counseling can provide tools to address the deeper wounds caused by narcissistic abuse.

Narcissistic habits are often deeply ingrained, and while change is possible for some, it is rare without significant intervention. Your healing journey matters, and you are not alone. By understanding the habits of a narcissist, you can begin to break free from their influence and move toward restoration and wholeness.

At Mending the Soul, we are committed to walking with you on this path of healing. For more resources and support, explore our website or consider joining a support group near you.